And I lived my life believing I wasn’t good enough and my poor choices reected my belief.
This used to be my prison.
Always wondering what others thought of me. The way they said something or didn’t say something, the message or email they sent. I could create a whole story of why they hated me, were angry or upset at me and why I clearly wasn’t good enough and that’s why they didn’t like me.
It was like I had a crystal ball and I knew exactly what they thought about me and of course, according to me, they hated me. …
I’m triggered daily — some big some small some meh
But Triggers are Your Responsibility
Your Reaction to Your Triggers is Your Responsibility
Healing Your Triggers is Your Responsibility
It is impossible to expect everyone to use language that you feel is appropriate or behave impeccably or respond in a way that suits you — not feasible.
Triggers are individual and personal. There is no way in hell that anyone can be aware of all your triggers and now how to behave around you.
Yes, blatant hurtful words and actions are not acceptable. …
And the best decision you will ever make.
The single most important decision that any woman experiencing abuse will make is the decision to leave or stay. Deciding to leave is tough. You may have financial worries or anxious thoughts about how you will manage.
Your self-worth and confidence is at its lowest point; battered by your partner and his continued negative commentary on your ability, your looks, and your value. You feels embarrassed to reach out to family and friends to help and support in your quest for freedom. …
These are the warning signs that I wish I had paid attention to when I started dating the man. These are the warning signs of an abusive, mean-spirited man. They seem like love, attention, and devotion but they are truly signs of possessiveness, extreme jealousy, isolation, domination and control.
In the beginning I could have used the power of my voice to say “There is no way in hell that I will allow someone to treat me like a piece of crap.” That would have ended the relationship before I was subjected to intense emotional and physical abuse. …
Mindfulness means paying attention to the present moment, on purpose, without judgment. When we are mindful, we are fully engaged with the life around us and within us, with focus, awareness and acceptance.
How can you possibly engage and communicate with real people including yourself if your neck is bent toward the ground and your eyes are focused on your phone? How can you connect with nature and her magnificence if she goes unnoticed?
Drop the phone and Live in the Moment. The amazing benefits include reduced anxiety and depression, improved attention, increased happiness, greater self-awareness and self-compassion, improved health and immune functioning, and many more. …
Oh, it’s a filthy word. It’s a word that is short and pudgy. Only three letters that will keep you stuck in your rut forever.
W.H.Y. = Three small letters that create one small depression enhancing word. A word that creates a never-ending loop.
When you are stuck asking yourself WHY questions, you are stuck creating Excuses.
Fact — the only answer to a Why question is an excuse.
When you are in an unhealthy relationship, it is very easy to get trapped in the why loop. You’re looking for an answer but it doesn’t exist. …